4 Prayer Services Most People Won’t Go To

Please excuse the length of this while I go on a little rant. One of my most popular posts is 10 reasons that people don’t want to go to your prayer meeting. Part of the reason is that leaders realize that although the prayer service is important it is “the least attended service in the church.” Pastors will come up to me and say something like, “People would rather go to a potluck than a prayer service.”

However one of the reasons that people won’t come to the prayer service of the church is that they may fall into one of these categories:

The National Flag Prayer Service

I am not sure if this is a common type of prayer service in other places in the world but some form of these shows up in various places in the United States. These are the prayer services where the main emphasis is praying for the country. From there it moves into some type of prayer for leadership in the government and from there it becomes a political “prayer” discussion. Now I am all for praying for the country but these types of prayer services can easily turn into a political gripe session that is not attractive to new people.

The End Times Chart Makers Prayer Service

The end times charts may not be as popular as they used to be but the heart of those charts live on in prayer services in churches around the world. They start in a very admirable place of calling for urgency in prayer because the time is short. Any teaching or discussion time in the prayer service becomes a place for people to think about the significance of the latest blue moon. This prayer service is a kissing cousin of the National Flag prayer service and may become one service in the right occasion.

The “Grandma’s Got A Hang Nail So Add It To The List” Prayer Service

This is actually one of the most common types of prayer services. The leader starts the service by quoting the verse, “Where 2 or 3 are gathered in my name there am I with them.” From there they go around the room and each person will share a need for prayer. Some of these will be “smaller” needs that may simply speak to the persons comfort in sharing. Sometimes someone is assigned to take down notes and will assign them later. One person will push through and share a deeper need like the fight she had with her husband shortly before the prayer service. This produces empathy from some of the group who counsel and advice the lady. Of course this takes a while. This mean at a point in the service someone says, “Oh we should pray, look at the time.” Prayers are assigned and prayed as people hurry to the close.

The Gift of Intercession Expert Roundup Prayer Service

I have written elsewhere about my ideas on the expression the “gift of intercession”, but at this point I will at least say I am not a fan. This prayer service may be specially designated for “the intercessors” or the format only lends itself to “the super Christians”. Their mantra will be something like, “We are not here to talk, we are here to pray (or storm the gates of heaven or insert your favorite militant prayer phrase).” This prayer meeting may not have a lot of structure. The “open microphone” allow people to get up and pray some impressive prayers. Not any prayer that a new Christian would feel comfortable praying but lengthy and powerful. There is no encouragement to remember Charles Finney’s warning that those who are leading in prayer should pray short prayers.

Now let me be clear, I am not against praying for your country. I believe that we are living in the end times and that does create urgency to our prayer. One of the great benefits of a prayer service is that we can pray for people’s needs. I personally love a prayer service that has a lot of open time.

That said my title for this is, “most people don’t want to go to.” Since most prayer services average 5-10% of the Sunday AM population and the average church in the USA runs about 75 that means the average prayer service has 4-10 people in it. The main 4 people may love the service because they like that format or are drawn to that cause. They are the ones that say, “Why don’t more people come to the prayer service.”

Maybe it is time to think a little harder about how we format or structure our prayer service. This will be stretching for those who are used to a certain format. This will also require some passion and teaching so that new people become comfortable with it as they grow in prayer. But the effort can be worth it. I have seen a church go from 5%-10% of the Sunday morning attendance in the prayer service to 10%-20%. That simple change transforms the whole spiritual climate of the church!

The Danger of “The Gift of Intercession”

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I am going to share something about building a culture of prayer that might make some of you unhappy. But I believe that it is a problem that keeps some churches from experiencing the power that prayer can provide. There is an expression out there in the church world that is kind of dangerous. The expression that I am talking about is “the gift of intersession.” This expression in part came about from the talk, in maybe the mid 1990s, about spiritual gifts. In taking assessments and writing books people would put, “the gift of intersession” alongside things like “the word of wisdom” and “prophecy”. Over time this has led to a separate class of people who are the “prayers”. This caused 3 unfortunate things:

1. It has brought an intimidation to the average Christian about prayer.

Since most will not feel like they have “the gift of intersession” they will feel inferior in prayer to those special people. They mistakenly think that because they are not the super prayers why even bother to pray. This takes away the many joys of prayer to so many Christians.

2.  It has driven many in the life of prayer to weirdness.

In some churches and ministries this situation has created a separate group and culture of people that are in the prayer world. Because of this they deal mainly with each other and create their own vocabulary to describe common experiences. This new vocabulary and ways of dealing with things take on stranger and stranger forms since they never have to explain themselves to those who are not a part of the group. This then leads to a wider gulf between them and the rest of the church. It not only hurts the church because they stay away from prayer it makes the people who are praying feel distant because no one joins them in prayer.

3. It takes away the power from the rest of the gifts.

Probably the greatest danger of this “gift of intersession” is that it takes away the life of prayer from the gifts that also depend on prayer. Those with the gift of leadership will encourage others to pray, but miss the empowerment that their gift would gain through prayer. People with the gift of administration might never think that prayer is part of how they are to operate. Each of the gifts that God gives us to serve the church is empowered by our prayer life and cannot be put aside for only certain special people who pray.

There are a few things to help with this problem. One, be careful not to exclude the whole church when you talk about people on prayer teams. Two, try to find new ways to get more people involved in various aspects of prayer. Three, highlight the importance of prayer with every gift of the Spirit.